The Bible often warns
against the harsh use of words. The
apostle Paul listed abusive speech as one of the sinful habits that should be
abandoned in the new life of a Christian (Colossians 3:8). A destructive tongue is variously
characterized as a “sharp razor” (Psalm 52:2) or a “sharp sword” (Psalm 57:4;
Proverbs 12:18). If you have ever been
on the receiving end of the weaponized words of a skilled practitioner, you
likely have the scars to prove it.
But there is another
form of speech that doesn’t have the jagged edge of harshness but can be just
as destructive. The Bible also warns us
about smooth talkers who use their words to damage us. The Psalmist speaks of one whose “...speech
was smoother than butter, but his heart was war; his words were softer than
oil, yet they were drawn swords” (Psalm 55:21).
The wise father in Proverbs warns his son of the deceptive words of the
temptress: “For the lips of an adulteress drip honey and smoother than oil is
her speech; but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged
sword” (Proverbs 5:3-4). As Paul closes
his letter to the Roman church, he references troublemakers who would seek to
lead them away from the truth: “For such men are slaves, not of our Lord Christ
but of their own appetites; and by their smooth and flattering speech they
deceive the hearts of the unsuspecting” (Romans 16:18).
In some ways, the
smooth talker is even more dangerous than the harsh talker. The intentions of one using abusive speech
are easily identified as destructive. There is no doubt about what is going
on. But the motives of the smooth talker
are harder to discern. He or she may be
saying good things in pleasing ways but still seeking to harm you.
Be on guard against
the smooth talker. And, even more importantly,
let’s all seek to speak in pleasing ways -- but never as a cover to harm anyone
else.
God loves you!
Mike